STALKER ALERT!

 I have been pretty quiet about this unless you are inside my inner circle, but this has gotten out of control and I am ready to put this out there for everyone to read, especially that special someone that is doing this to me.  I met my current spouse around the end of January 2023.  We met through a dating app, and never thought it would amount to much due to the distance.  Little did we know it was the beginning of something amazing.  We were four hours apart, but talked every single night for hours on the phone, messaged each other daily and it just bloomed.  We eventually met in March 2023 in person and the rest is history.  We now live happily together making our dream life a reality.  I would not change this for the world, I feel I truly met the person made for me.  Things are not always so fairytale.  Lets get into it, when did the stalking begin and when did it end.  

The end of March 2023, early April I came to where my spouse lives and we spent the weekend together.  We went into the city for supper, he took me on a underground tour of the mine he works at, and we just had a fantastic time.  Fast forward to I think it was the next weekend or the weekend after, he had come down to where I was living at the time to spend the weekend.  We were out on a hike when the first message came in.  

"Message to Breanne Wills IG brewills.  I do not know what kind of relation you in but you deserve to know Ryan is with women than you. He is playing you and at least one here in Saskatoon" 

I tried to reply to this message, but it does not go through.  This is because the person used some kind of app to cover their tracks and send this without me knowing where it came from.  This was strange, and I will not lie it made me question things, I had just met this man, and with the distance it was slightly possible that he was doing some sketchy things.  His reaction to this message told me the truth, he was incredibly upset and confused,  he questioned why someone would do this to him and why they would want to hurt me.  The more I thought about it, when we were not together we were glued to our phones together, photos, chats, calls.  When was he finding the time to see this "other woman" ?  I decided this was someone desperate attempt to mess up our new relationship.  I let it go. 

Two days later the next message came in. 

"We have not and will not meet. I saw you with him here three weeks ago but also seen him very close with someone else.  Just remember and think about it you are not seeing everything.  The honeymoon will end. Just what I see and your fair warning"  

This sent me over the edge.  This is when I knew it was someone's jealous attempt to sabotage our relationship.  If you were a girl truly concerned and wanting to warn someone, you do not hide behind fake numbers and a keyboard.  She obviously has my phone number, which to this day I still do not know how she got it.  It is not linked to any of my social media accounts.  Which causes a whole new level of creepy.  If a girl was warning me my man was cheating, she would message me directly and have a conversation.  This is some desperate girl hoping to ruin this for us and try and get back in the good books with my spouse.  

We both chose to ignore these messages and go on with our lives, we had suspicion on who was sending them and we both knew it was a desperate girl hoping for another chance.  My spouse was very concerned I would take these messages to heart so he made every effort to calm my mind.  We always have both of our live locations on so at any moment we can see where one another are.  I did not think this was necessary but my spouse wanted me to be content if I ever felt he was somewhere I didn't think he was I could see with my own eyes the truth.  Pretty uneventful between home, work and the grocery store he really didn't go very far.  

Now fast forward to July, I am at the post office with my brother grabbing both of our mail.  I receive a letter.  Now at this point I am excited I never get mail except bills!  

  

It was strange to me that it was sent general delivery, and that it was typed out then glued to the envelope, but still I was excited and opened it right away in the car.  To find this typed letter inside.  

I warned you?  Warned me of what exactly?  That you want to ruin my relationship and that I ignored you and ruined your plan?  We were both extremely happy in our relationship and at this point unless we were both working we were together.  The new stages of the relationship where, lunch break phone calls, regular break calls,  soon as we were done work we were on the phone together.  We were basically glued at the hip together.  These messages did one thing for us, strengthened our relationship.  We were both very open and very communitive.  We talked over everything that bothered us, down to the last detail there was nothing that was not shared.  I believe this is what made us so strong and so close to one another.  

This is where I got slightly concerned, this person found my phone number, it is not listed, and not linked to my social media.  I cannot explain just exactly how she found my number to send me these things.  Second, she was now sending me things in the mail, to where I lived.  This was crossing the line and getting very creepy.  It honestly just looks sad on your part love, pack it up and move on because he did.  This was the point where I really said, ok I have a stalker.  This person is now intruding in my home life, my social life and my mental health.  

This is the point where my spouse had had enough.  We went to the police asking if there was anything that could be done.  They were very sympathetic and opened a file for us, but unfortunately because she was sending everything anonymous and hiding her calls there was nothing that they could do at this point in time.  They opened the file and it is still currently open, any new information I simply send it there way and it adds to the collection, so the day she does slip up and they can confirm our suspicions she will be arrested and charged.     

Since the letter I have received some more strange texts but they faded as time went on.  Over two years later I thought that this woman finally got the point.  We were happy and not breaking up any time soon.  This was until this past week.  I have been receiving phone calls from numbers I do not recognize and when I answer the person quickly lets out a breath and hangs up the phone.  When I call the number back its either a number that cannot be called back or it goes to a voicemail with no name, never to be answered.  Coincidence?  I am very aware that this person still stalks my social media daily, so you can bet she is probably reading this blog.  I just have a small message for you love,  please get some mental help, go see a counsellor and move on with your life.  You were in a relationship with my current spouse for the span of a few weeks,  it's not some great long lost love, it wasn't some amazing romantic life.  It was a few weeks before he realized it was not right, and from what I am seeing for good cause.  Please learn to enjoy life again, stop being stuck in the past.  Move on find someone or something else to bring you joy back into your life.  You can count that every phone call, every fake number you use has been sent in to the open police file, and if you continue it will be pushed very hard for serious charges.  Just move on and go find your happy somewhere else.